Flighty and Free, or at Least Trying to Be!

A Twenty-Something Urbanite, with a little taste of wanderlust, who's just trying to find her way in this semi-charmed kind of life!

Friday, December 21, 2007

WTFWJD?!

I keep reminding myself (more like chanting in my mind like a mantra) that its the Christmas season. The time to be nice, giving, understanding. Let bygones be bygones. Enjoy time with family and friends.

What I didn't expect was this to be a time of testing. It seems like there are a lot of things in my life right now that are testing me; who I am, who I have been able to work so hard to become, where I am in life and where I'm going. To be forced to question so many things, again, is not something that I had ever anticipated, but maybe that's why it's happening.

The one thing I am sure of from all of this, though, is that I've been left feeling small and alone, and that's a crappy way to feel for Christmas.

Monday, December 17, 2007

I Believe in Christmas Miracles

Once in a while, I get that sense of foreboding. You know, that feeling in your gut like you just know something bad is going to happen? I don't get that feeling often, but when I do it is usually dead-on right, and I have come to fear that feeling.

I had started to get that sense recently when someone incredibly close to me said that they were going to take a long trip to a part of the world that isn't always known to be the safest for singular, unaccompanied travelers. Knowing what this trip meant to the person, I was being as supportive as possible and ignoring this sense in me. I wasn't telling anyone my fears; not my friends, family, or this one person.

Until last Sunday.

Two Saturdays ago I had a bunch of the girlies over and we had SUCH a great time. It felt so good to laugh and enjoy time with my closest friends. Bubbles ended up crashing over and we went for breakfast the next morning. When we were chatting about plans for the holidays and catching up on other random stuff, this whole thing came up. She asked how I really felt about it, and maybe it's because it's the first time anyone asked me what I actually thought about this person taking/making this trip, but I just let it all out. I was really upset and scared for this person, but was determined not to let it show. I wanted to be supportive and understanding, not critical and weepy.

So, amidst the tears and weepy, scared feelings for this person, I did something I haven't done in quite a long time: I asked for something purely for myself. I sent a prayer into the universe asking if there was any way for this trip not to happen because I was beyond scared: I was terrified. That sense of foreboding went beyond just worry, it was an ugly fear that if this person took this trip, they might not ever come back...and not for love of the location and the wonderful sites I'm sure they would see.

Come Monday when this person and I were chatting, I asked how the planning was going for the trip. They very simply said, "It's not. Something came up, and I'm not going." I nearly cried with relief and wasn't able to compose myself before a single tear escaped my eye.

I can go the entire Christmas season without receiving a single gift just for knowing that my prayer was answered.

Friday, December 07, 2007

Victory Is Mine!

To: Carolyn
From: Misty
Date: December 6

Carolyn,
I see. I am sorry but I did not mean to come across to you in that way.
How can I now help? I believe we can show the post office was at fault and they should refund you. I can certainly refund you for the card.
Please let me know if I can do anything on my end.
Sincerely ,
Misty Blanton

Oh, I do so love the smell of napalm in the morning!

Thursday, December 06, 2007

Venting Needed

Last Wednesday I purchased an item online and payed mucho dinero for expedited shipping since i needed it to send over seas to my Honey. Maybe I'm channeling Jen Lancaster because I'm reading her first book right now, but when I did not get it in time, which really ticked me off, the following resulted:

To: A Touch of Dutch
From: Unsatisfied Customer
Date: December 5, 2007

Hello there,

Recently I ordered an item from your site (Order Number: ***) and paid a lot of extra money to have shipping expedited (EXPRESS (1 - 2 Days)): $19.50). I have still yet to receive the item of purchase, and at this point in time I no longer need the item. I ask for some kind of compensation on the extra expense I incurred in good-faith of receiving my items on time.

Thank you for your time,
Carolyn

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To: Carolyn
From: A Touch of Dutch
Date: December 6, 2007

Carolyn,
Your package was sent Express by USPS and they have made two attempts to deliver to you. The second one was made today. It is being held at your post office. I shipped it 11/29. Another attempt to deliver your item was made at 11:23 AM on December 5, 2007 in BELLEROSE, NY 11426 and a notice was left. I am sorry for your confusion.

Best Regards,
Misty Blanton; Owner
A Touch of Dutch

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To: Misty
From: Carolyn
Date: December 6, 2007

Actually Misty,

They only left ONE notice, and I had to argue with my local post office about why they wouldn't leave me my package AFTER I had signed the release slip on the first day of attempted delivery...which was 3 DAYS prior to my finally having to take off from work to go to the actual office location and pick it up myself. That's correct, not 1-2 days delivery, but now 6! It was not MY confusion, for I do know how to read and follow the instructions clearly stated on the USPS's notice and I take insult at your insinuation.

The whole point of paying for the expedited shipping was to have my item in time for a very specific event, and I have been left frustrated, angried and disappointed. And your lack of customer service in trying to remedy a discrepancy that was in fact not on my behalf is also disheartening, being a small business owner myself.

-Carolyn

There were many more scathing things just sitting at the tip of my mind, just BEGGING to be written in the email, but I figured that was probably strong enough. I would hate to bust out the 'ghetto' on someone named "Misty." WTF?!

Tuesday, December 04, 2007

Breakin' Out the Music

I've got all my Christmas music going on my computer and I've got a great collection of favorites. But among them all, I still think this one is my favorite!

Click Me

The harmony and melody are just beautiful, and the performers are so great together!

I <3 Sarah and the "Ladies!"

I hope you're all starting to get into the Holiday Spirit like I am!

Irony

Not just a delightful Pinot Noir from California, but something that occurs every once in a while in life for all of us.

For my book club this month, we're reading Bitter is the New Black by Jen Lancaster. I've read this book before, and it still has me laughing in stitches the second time around. And my shop customers/book club participants are telling me they are enjoying the read, too!

I remember when I read this book the first time, Jen's story really spoke to me a lesson on frivolous spending. And for a while afterwards, I was very careful and financially responsible. But then I took another job with a bigger salary, and my old ways seemed to resurface. It's terribly difficult breaking such a fun habit as shopping. So, now I'm reading the book again, and it's making me realize that no matter how much I make, there really isn't any need to be buying yet another pocket book, just because I don't have an orange one, and you never know when you're going to need an orange Tumi messenger bag!

On the train I take to work in the morning there's a group of women whom I call The Hens. They are all mothers, and cluck, cluck, cluck the entire train ride! From listening in on their conversations for close to three years now, I have come to know that they all come from well to-do life styles, are utterly disappointed when they can't find one of their 4 pairs of Chanel sunglasses, and won't settle for off the rack! And this morning, they were all discussing their children's holiday concerts/plays. One of the women was complaining about how the kids in the show were responsible for their own costumes and outfits. That's how it was back in my day, too, so I didn't really think it an odd thing. But then Mother Hen #2 started complaining about the pants, shirt, jacket, tie, and shoes (because the black ones her son already has just 'won't do' since the entire outfit will be new) she needed to buy for this shin-dig. But at least she was able to find a Calvin Klein shirt for $100, so it really isn't too terrible!

*gasp*

We were lucky if my mom didn't take something out of our closet and dye it to make it work with what we needed...because you know we were hitting the Marshall's sale rack if anything did need to be bought!

And with hearing that while reading my book, I was up to the part in Jen's story when her and her husband are forced to move because they can't afford their apartment anymore, and she's sitting in her closet looking at all her frivolous spending; equating all her shoes to rent money, and her purse worth equal to months of health insurance! Well, that $100 this woman spent on a single shirt that her son will probably only wear once or twice in his life would pay for either a month of groceries or utilities for me!

Yikes!